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What Does it Mean to Respect Boundaries?

Quite a simple question in many ways, but one that many people struggle with, both in terms of trying to set boundaries of their own, and dealing with other people who don’t respect, or don’t […]

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What Does Rigorous Honesty Really Mean?

The term rigorous honesty is used a lot in Alcoholics Anonymous, and in the 12-step recovery world generally. Its original intent was to make clear the need for people to own and take responsibility for […]

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Pray As You Can, Not As You Can’t

The phrase ‘pray as you can not as you cannot’ isn’t terribly well known to a lot of people, but to those who do know it and use it as a literal guide to prayer, […]

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Why can Meditation be Difficult?

There is a paradox about meditation, in that most types of meditation of themselves are fairly simple to do, but many people find meditation as a practice, or a process, fairly difficult. Sometimes people put […]

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Willing To Go To Any Lengths……

Anyone familiar with this phrase will recognise it from the early part of chapter five of the book Alcoholics Anonymous, which sets out the 12-step program which is the cornerstone of AA’s recovery process. As […]

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Why Secrets Are So Dangerous

Several slogans and sayings get chucked around in health circles, which some people find helpful, and other people find both helpful and irritating, depending upon their mood. One of the most common sayings, although not […]

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What is Manipulative Behaviour ?

There are two questions really, what is manipulative behaviour and why is it so damaging? Manipulation is often thought of as being something that most people do in varying degrees to get their own way, […]

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How Do You Let Go of The Need to Control…..

The need to feel that you are in control of other people, and their actions, can be one of the most debilitating and draining processes in your life. Often people have no conscious sense that […]

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What is the Alcoholics Anonymous 12 and 12?

The phrase the 12 and 12 is often used in AA meetings, and refers to a book written and published by one of the co-founders, Bill Wilson, entitled the 12 steps and the 12 traditions.