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Why High Class Problems Matter
There is a tendency nowadays by some people to avoid using the word problem and to use the word challenge instead. This has been a trend for a number of years, and has a very […]
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When Alcohol Stops Working ………..
One of the benefits of going to meetings while getting sober is that people hear stories that help them understand their own alcoholism, even if they don’t fully understand it at the time. One of […]
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Adult Children of Alcoholics
Adult Children of Alcoholics, often referred to as ACA or ACOA, is another 12 step fellowship that has a close association with Alcoholics Anonymous. It is aimed at adults who grew up in a home […]
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12 Step Programs
This can be a slightly confusing term for some people. It originates from the organisation Alcoholics Anonymous, which developed a recovery program based around 12 specific steps, which are really statements of experience of what […]
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Rehabs and Treatment Centers
Many people who get sober do so in a rehab or treatment center. Many people are familiar with the idea of a rehab, but perhaps less clear about what happens there. Most rehabs are residential, […]
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What is an Inner Voice?
When people talk about an inner voice in the context of spirituality, they are normally referring to an inner intuitive sense of direction in their life. This sense of there being an inner world, and […]
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Acceptance and Surrender
It has become almost something of a cliche in society nowadays to use the adage that you cannot cope with a problem unless you first admit it. Not that this is a new or novel […]
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The Need to Question Gratitude
Quite often in an AA meeting or similar, you will hear someone announce themselves as my name is so-and-so and I’m a grateful alcoholic/ addict, or I’m a grateful recovering alcoholic/addict. Equally, you are quite […]
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The Myth of Tough Love
Tough love is one of those expressions that has crept into the vocabulary of mental health and 12-step recovery in recent years. It sort of implies that an action or directive is being given or […]
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Why People Struggle with Being Vulnerable
People quite often like to categorise emotions as being good or bad, with emotions such as anger and self-pity being thought of as bad or weak. Emotions such as gratitude and a positive outlook are […]
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What Does it Mean to Respect Boundaries?
Quite a simple question in many ways, but one that many people struggle with, both in terms of trying to set boundaries of their own, and dealing with other people who don’t respect, or don’t […]
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What Does Rigorous Honesty Really Mean?
The term rigorous honesty is used a lot in Alcoholics Anonymous, and in the 12-step recovery world generally. Its original intent was to make clear the need for people to own and take responsibility for […]
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Pray As You Can, Not As You Can’t
The phrase ‘pray as you can not as you cannot’ isn’t terribly well known to a lot of people, but to those who do know it and use it as a literal guide to prayer, […]
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Why do People find it Hard to Believe in God?
Most people have normally been asked at some point in their life if they believe in God or not. In AA and 12 step recovery generally, people are likely to be asked this question more […]
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Why can Meditation be Difficult?
There is a paradox about meditation, in that most types of meditation of themselves are fairly simple to do, but many people find meditation as a practice, or a process, fairly difficult. Sometimes people put […]
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Willing To Go To Any Lengths……
Anyone familiar with this phrase will recognise it from the early part of chapter five of the book Alcoholics Anonymous, which sets out the 12-step program which is the cornerstone of AA’s recovery process. As […]
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Why Secrets Are So Dangerous
Several slogans and sayings get chucked around in health circles, which some people find helpful, and other people find both helpful and irritating, depending upon their mood. One of the most common sayings, although not […]
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What is Manipulative Behaviour ?
There are two questions really, what is manipulative behaviour and why is it so damaging? Manipulation is often thought of as being something that most people do in varying degrees to get their own way, […]
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How Do You Let Go of The Need to Control…..
The need to feel that you are in control of other people, and their actions, can be one of the most debilitating and draining processes in your life. Often people have no conscious sense that […]
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What is the Alcoholics Anonymous 12 and 12?
The phrase the 12 and 12 is often used in AA meetings, and refers to a book written and published by one of the co-founders, Bill Wilson, entitled the 12 steps and the 12 traditions.